GRAND RAPIDS, Mich (WOTV) – Weddings nowadays seem like all traditional rules are out the window. Whether you’re going to a barn or destination wedding, there are still a few gift giving etiquette rules to follow.
Stick to the registry
It’s tempting not to. You see something that you know the bride will gush over or you remember when you wished you had this item when you first got married. Either way, stick to the registry. These are items that the bride and groom chose together; items they want to start their life together with. Plus, stores make it super easy to access the registry online or in-store. According to theknot.com, nearly 85% of brides want you to select a wedding gift from their wedding registry list.
Don’t spend less than $50
While this is an etiquette rule that has been debated, the best rule of thumb to follow is no lower than $50. Don’t buy the gift based on the fanciness of the wedding, you wouldn’t do that for a friend’s birthday party. Instead, spend what you think is appropriate for your relationship with the bride or groom. Also, don’t feel pressured to give this couple the same gift they gave to you at YOUR wedding. Exception: If you are paying a lot to get to a destination wedding, spending a little less on the gift is understandable. However, here’s the range you should aim for:
- Distant relative/friend or coworker: $50-$75
- Relative or friend: $75-$100
- Close friend or family member: $100-$150
Wedding gift, shower gift, engagement gift….What’s the rule?!
From the engagement party to the actual wedding, it sure feels like you’re giving a lot of gifts! It’s a happy time, so of course it’s a blast to spoil the couple. A good way to not end up spending a fortune is to think of how much you want to spend total on wedding related gifts and break it down like this:
- 20% engagement party
- 20% bridal shower
- 60% wedding
How long do I have to send the gift?
The one year rule still stands. Meaning, you have one year after the wedding to send a gift. However, I wouldn’t wait longer than two to three month after the wedding. Being able to buy gifts online, there’s no excuse for the delay. According to theknot.com, you’re not supposed to bring the big, bulky gifts to the wedding because the bride and groom will have to lug it around. If you have an envelope with money, find a close family member to pass it along if there’s no gift table.